Winning With People

Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Ephesians 5:1-2 (NIV)

1. WIN WITH PEOPLE BY SHOWING YOURSELF FRIENDLY

A man who has friends must himself be friendly.

Proverbs 18:24 (NKJV)

Traits of Integrity

Trustworthy, honest, dependable, loyal

Traits of Caring

Empathy, ability to withhold judgement, listening skills, ability to offer support, being kind to others

Traits of Likeability

Self-confident, ability to see the humor in life and fun to be around, humble and nice to people

2. LENS PRINCIPLE - WHO YOU ARE DETERMINES HOW YOU SEE OTHERS

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3 (NIV)

3. ELEVATOR PRINCIPLE – YOU CAN LIFT PEOPLE UP OR TAKE PEOPLE DOWN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

WAYS TO WIN WITH PEOPLE:

1. Become genuinely interested in people

2. Smile

3. Remember that person’s name and use it in conversation

4. Be a good listener–encourage others to talk about themselves (Listen more and talk less)

5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests (ask questions about their life)

6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely

*People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care!

(John Maxwell)

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

1 John 4:7-8 (NIV)

VICTORY GROUP QUESTIONS

1. What traits of “Showing Yourself Friendly” are you good at? What areas need improvement?

2. How can you apply the “Lens and Elevator” Principles to your life to improve your people skills?

3. Read through “Ways to Win With People” and select a skill that you can start applying in your life today.

4. Read Ephesians 4:2-3. In what ways is God challenging you to apply this scripture to your life?